Endo & Remaining Intimate

For all of the ladies who have a boyfriend or husband in the picture, it is no secret that being intimate with our dreadful condition is extremely difficult. Not to mention painful. Since I first started having symptoms of endometriosis, this has been one of the biggest challenges for me. I do not want to risk my marriage because of lack of intimacy. So, with the help of the always amazing Google search engine, and my own personal ideas, I have created a list of ways to be intimate, without being, well, intimate!

Sensual touching: Give your lover shoulder rubs or back massages. There is something incredible about pleasing your partner. Bonus points for massage oils, like the one listed here from Bath & Body Works.

Go on a walk: Grab some coffee or hot chocolate and take a walk. I took the picture above while walking in downtown Scottsdale. You never know what you will find or run into!

 

Enjoy the sunrise/sunset: I haven't lived in Phoenix long, but I do have to brag that The Southwest has some of the most Uh-Mazing sunrises and sunsets that I have ever seen. I took this stunning picture just outside the Superstition Mountains. Watching the sun rise or set is a very romantic way to spend time with your love.

Cook his favorite meal: Okay, so what? The picture above isn't a great example since it doesn't showcase my cooking abilities. However, it is a funny picture of Tyler (my husband)!Anyway, you can set the mood by lighting some romantic candles. Then dim the lights and have dinner ready when he arrives. You will definitely get bonus points if you put on one of his button-up shirts. When I want to be sexy, I always think back to the Pretty Woman scene where Richard Gere comes home to Julia Roberts in a new tie. So, if you are feeling frisky, make it just the tie. Warning: He just might like it!

Bubble baths/steamy showers: Laying together in a warm, luxurious bubble bath is a great way to reconnect with your partner. Make sure to ask him how his day was and really listen to him. With all that women with endometriosis deal with, sometimes it is easy to forget to ask the main man in our lives just how he is doing. Added points for drying him off with a hot towel! 

(photo credit: Rue Magazine)

Go on your first date: Surprise him with a de javu moment and recreate your first date. It will definitely remind both of you how far you have come as a couple, while reminiscing on such a memorable moment. Make sure to remind him of the way that you felt (minus any bad moments) to really make him feel loved.

Buy him a present: This does not have to be an expensive or lavish gift, especially since the holidays are coming up. Simply purchase a “just-because” gift to showcase your love and appreciation for him. If you need help with suggestions, think along the lines of his favorite candy, junk food, or alcoholic beverage. FYI - that is Tonka as a puppy (and a gift to ourselves when we adopted him from a local shelter).

Try out a game of “Truth or Dare”. Play an adult version of “Truth or Dare” or another game that can have a naughty side to it. Here is a great site that has several sexy examples of “truths” and “dares.” In the picture above, Tyler and I got a little daring and dressed up for some photobooth fun at my sisters wedding!

 

Finally, just enjoy the moment. You're in love, and your partner is with you on this crazy rollercoaster ride called Endometriosis. Enjoy every minute!

What do you do as a couple to keep the spark alive? Leave a comment below!

xo Heather